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Tuesday 27 April 2010

The Post I Never Thought I'd Have to Write

Hello Everyone :)

You may or may not know of the drama that occurred last night both on my blog and twitter and I wont say too much about it as there's nothing worse than dragging up old dirt but pretty much over the last week someone has been leaving quite hurtful comments on my blog concerning my weight and it came to a head last night.

I didn't respond to the person last night as anyone who knows me will tell you I avoid drama at all costs and I wanted to take some time to actually think of a response I was happy with rather than something written in the heat of the moment.

Firstly, I would like to say thank you to everyone who did respond last night - you are all lovely and I'm sending a big sloppy kiss your way! In answer to the comments I have a couple of things to say:

  1. I have never once called myself thin/skinny - I am quite happy to admit that I am a happy size 14 who loves food and wine just as much as I love Taylor Lautner and Dust It.
  2. I am not naive enough to believe that I am immune to criticism. If you are happy to put yourself out there on the Internet you have to be able to take criticism - I'm fine with that. This is a blog about make up - if you have something to say about how my make up looks go ahead and say it. However, I will not tolerate unnecessary nastiness. I have been unable to take anything constructive from your comments - What do you wish me to do, shade in my jaw like Boy George so you don't have to see my double chin? I just don't think that is a look I would be able to pull of...
  3. As to your comments regarding my hiding behind a clique - I think these may be a tad hypocritical considering you're hiding behind a computer screen.
  4. I think the most baffling thing of all are your constant references to my 'pretending to be something that I'm not'. In terms of photographs - that is just me! I'm sorry if you find them deceiving but as it was quite rightly pointed out people's faces look different from different angles. I can quite safely say that in terms of my blog I am just me! In fact my friend Clare recently said I talk on my blog the exact same way I talk in real life. Sorry, but I just don't understand what it is you're trying to say.
  5. The way you conducted yourself last night was ridiculously reductive. By being so aggressive resulted in your insults becoming more ridiculous and funny than hurtful.
I'm quite sad that I've been forced into writing this post but after a week of comments I'm putting an end to this whole fiasco. Your negativity isn't welcome on my blog, please go away in the knowledge that I'm quite happy just the way I am - I'm not worried about my weight or how I look so I don't think you should be either. Kindly now leave me alone so I can enjoy my Lucky Charms in peace please!



Lots of Love
Nic
xoxo

34 comments:

  1. Wow... what happened babe? what did I miss? No way has someone being saying nasty cruel things to you, you are the cutest thing ever!!!

    xxx

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  2. Aww thanks Jo! Ha you're in for a treat, go and read the comments here: http://carrsky-carrsky.blogspot.com/2010/04/fotd-and-recent-rediscovery.html#comments xx

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  3. I think they way you have conducted yourself on here/twitter over the noobhead comments hunnie is admirable! :) Sending you big sloppy kisses!
    You are a complete doll
    xxx mwah xxx

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  4. i didn't see any of the negative comments but i have to say you have handles this with such class and it speaks so highly of you as a person. well done doll :) xox

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  5. Ohmygod, that's crazy!

    We're all young adults on here, not primary school kids poking fun at one another!

    Something tells me that 'Bree' is jealous and clearly has nothing better to do! Ah well, Karma will soon be knocking on 'Bree's' door.
    xx

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  6. Hey sweets!
    Very good comeback, polite yet firm =D
    I'm glad your taking the cunty comments with a pinch of salt, I think EVERYONE has had it (I have, but I have my comments on moderation and I think mine was from some bitch slut on facebook lol)

    You've obviously got something she wants, that's why shes being a jealous cock =D

    xxxxxx

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  7. Well said hunny and a very good response. *hugs* x

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  8. Well done you for rising above it :) I totally agree with Milly! Hugs and kisses xox

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  9. oh god, i had no idea that was going on?
    It really is very sad when all you want to do is share your ideas,thoughts ect on a blog only to be shot down by some fecking sadoo with nothing better to do. Blogging really isn't what i thought it was. Great comeback hun, very well put!

    xx

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  10. Hi,

    sending you a lot of sunshine and keep up the good work ;)

    XoXo

    SummerBabe

    http://getreadyforsummer2010.blogspot.com/

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  11. Hi hun, I just wanted to say that you handled yourself really well through the whole thing. As did everyone else :) I can't believe someone would say things like they did - I never say anything online that I wouldn't say to someone in person and I'd NEVER say anything negative or nasty! Anyway, I lurve your blog lovely, your pictures are always so fun! x

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  12. Aw I can't believe someone would be so rude! I think you've handled it brilliantly!
    I love your blog and think you seem like a really sweet person!

    PS...love the pic of the Lucky Charms!! :) xx

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  13. This just shows you to be very classy, confident and mature. I think you make a great role model and I think your beautiful :)

    Much Love,

    Onna x

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  14. Oh my God, there's some sick people out there! You are GORGEOUS and they obviously lead a very sad life if they take it upon themselves to come out with vile comments like that! You wrote an amazing response and handled it really well, much stronger than I am! hxx

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  15. I must have missed all the drama but reading this post here gives me an idea of what happened. Don't dwell too much on this person's comments. I honestly think you're beautiful just the way you are. I see your photos and I always think you are such a sweet and bubbly person. Ignore the nasty comments and please stay the way you are. :)

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  16. Good response and glad you're not letting the nasty person get to you.

    I love reading your blog and think you're pretty :)

    I've given you an award on my blog :)

    http://foreverglitter.blogspot.com/2010/04/gorgeous-blogger-award.html

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  17. Sweetie - you are gorgeous both inside out and your behavior towards this sad and negative person just proves how beautiful you are. I am glad you are happy about who you are because obviously there's something missing in that sad persons life! Keep up the fantastic work and effort you put into such an amazing blog!

    Much Love from me x x

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  18. Sorry for trashing up yur blog but I realaly don't appreciate people that do that for no reason. <3

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  19. Can't believe I missed this!
    I just read the comments & what a bitch.. Some people really don't have anything good in their lives obviously
    I really don't understand why someone can leave comments like that..
    I actually don't understand how she came up with 'your pretending to be thin' your not photoshoping yourself? WHHHHAAAAT!! So where did that come from :S

    Well i think your gorgeous and love your blog as you should already know by now ;) xxx

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  20. You have handled the situation really well and I don't see why people would say such hurtful things when they don't even know you! & you are none of the things she said, you are gorgeous, have a bubbly personality (from what I've seen through your blog) and have a great body!
    I also don't see how you were trying to look thinner? She obviously has problems in her life and envy's you. If she was perfectly happy with her own life, she wouldn't say them. If she spent half the time she does writing pathetic hateful comments, maybe she could sort herself out.
    & everyone here isn't being nice and comforting you because were 'pretending', we love your blog and the person you are (which is herself bree!)
    x

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  21. I didn't know about all this! So sorry you had to receive the hurt. Loads of people think it's ok to pass judgement just because they won't be called up for it, as nobody knows who they are.

    I think it's horrible that something that so many people enjoy gets turned into a negative because of a handful of people that try to bring them down.
    I hope you're ok xx

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  22. I am sorry to hear about all that too.
    Guess you can't please everyone, but you are a gorgeous girl so to hell with those comments!
    xxx

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  23. I think you're beautiful and think that bitchy comments are completely unnecessary :) xxx

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  24. well said Nic i soo wanted to say something but i was at work and it settled down by the morning. you are absolutely gorgeous and you shouldn't let ANYONE bring you down especially in the blogging world. that bree is obviously jealous. there was no need in it what so ever.

    xxx

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  25. You've handled this situation brilliantly. I had a similar thing a while back where someone said the reason i had a problem with a makeup company i had had bad experiences with was because i am fatter than the the head of the company, which is just rediculous. Luckilly lots of people, even those who didn't agree with my point of view, came to my defence.
    You're beautiful.
    And also mmmmmm Lucky charms!

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  26. you are lovely! don't worry about that nonsense!! love your blog. =)

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  27. The clique thing was made even more ridiculous by the fact myself and Onna had never even spoken to you until that very day.
    I actually owe them. I have a new Twitter beauty and a new fabulous blog to read.

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  28. wow, i can't believe this.
    you are not at all fat! you should not let anybody put you down, especially not a person who doesn't even have the guts to tell you who they are!
    there was no need for any of the comments that person made and i hope it didn't put you down because i think you looked lovely in them photos :)
    silly person.
    don't listen to them.
    hope you're okay, well done for biting back :)
    x

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  29. Jealousy is a terrible thing! She obviously liked your blog enough to be reading through it in the first place. Some people just get their kicks bringing other people down! You showed her how amazing you are by being so strong, not getting involved and bringing yourself down to her level!

    Hope you dont let this affect your blogging coz you are super and I love your posts!! :)

    xx

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  30. Thank you all so so so much for your beautiful comments. I love you all <3 xxxxx

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  31. I was just reading back through your blog, devouring it happily, and found this post.

    I just wanted to drop a note and say that you are the best kind of beauty blogger and I appreciate what you do. You're so confident and creative and fun, and you haven't struck me as someone who uses beauty products to HIDE who she is, you obviously use them to express yourself. And you do so beautifully!

    I love that you don't fall into the trap of trying to look like other girls or trying to fit into that cookie-cutter mainstream image of beauty. You're GORGEOUS and unique and you don't seem afraid to be yourself. Good for you! I am glad I found your blog. You've revitalized my own love of product and reminded me of how FUN color can be!

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    1. I can't believe I've only managed to find this comment 2 years after it was posted - but if you ever read this thank you! Such an amazing comment to read!! xx

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